Robert BellWho Taught You That Selling is Evil? Selling doesn’t equal persuasion. Published 2 years agoon May 29, 2017By Robert Bell Invision June 2017 Issue Share Tweet WELL, OF COURSE selling sucks. It’s just plain evil. It’s awful and horrible. It’s despicable. Seriously, it’s just atrocious and immoral. And, it’s beneath you! It would have to be all those things according to what most of you, as eyecare professionals, tell me. When asked to define selling in an EyeCoach survey, here are a handful of responses from some of your peers:“Selling is pushing someone to purchase something they may not need.” “Selling is convincing a person to buy something from you.”“Selling is persuading a person to buy an item you’re trying to profit off of.” “Selling is trying to get money from someone to buy something they don’t want or need.” “Selling is trying to deceive someone to get their money.”Yikes. These are actual responses! Now ironically, selling is necessary. If there weren’t any sales, none of us would have jobs. So, selling a product and/or service is necessary. But is it a necessary evil?Well, it probably is if you subscribe to one of the definitions above, or have a negative perception in your head about what you think selling is. And you probably do because negative perceptions and definitions about selling is all we’ve been taught.Most of us believe the notion that selling is all about persuading someone to buy something. Selling = Persuasion. Do you personally like to be persuaded? Yeah, neither do I … and neither do your customers.So if Selling = Persuasion and most people don’t like to be persuaded, then of course Selling is evil. Selling sucks!Uh oh, so what do we do now? Advertisement How about changing the definition of “selling” so it’s not so hideous and evil?Try this on for size: Selling is helping someone acquire something they need. Isn’t that truly a natural extension of who you are as an eyecare professional? Helping someone acquire what they need? Selling has nothing to do with persuasion. As an eyecare professional, persuading a patient to buy something is laborious, painstakingly frustrating and makes you feel like you need a shower to wash away the stench of being a “salesperson.”Here’s a quote I love:“It’s not whether you win or lose. It’s not even how you play the game. It’s how you feel about yourself after the game has been played.” — Anna Quindlen Advertisement So I guess my question becomes this: What will make you feel better after playing “the game,” persuading someone of something or helping them acquire what they need?Of course, the choice is always up to you. Me? I’m just trying to make your life a little easier. 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Published 6 days agoon May 13, 2019By Robert Bell I GET THAT QUESTION all the time.“Was it the sale with the biggest price tag?” No.“Was it the sale in which you made the biggest commission?” Nope.“Was it your very first sale?” It wasn’t.“Was it the sale when you were so broke and needed a sale desperately?” Heck, no.“Was it the sale you overcame the most objections?” Nah.“Was it the easiest sale?” No way, Jose.“Was it the sale in which the customer referred you to another customer?” No, although that’s always appreciated!“Was it the time you sold the most amount of ‘widgets’?” No, no, no.“Was it the sale that put you ahead as ‘salesperson of the year’ that time?” Not even close.“Is it when you make the sale on a cold call?” No, sorry, it’s not.“Is it the sale you’ve made after trying for a very long time to sell them?” Again, no.Advertisement “Was it the sale when you oversold a customer?” Never happened.“Was it the sale when you truly met the customer’s needs?” YES!!!“Ah, finally. Okay, which sale was that?” All of them!Get it, folks? That’s what selling is all about: meeting and satisfying the customers need(s). Helping the customer acquire what they need to overcome their specific challenges and for it to be beneficial to them.So, if that’s what true selling is about, they’re all my best sale! Does that make sense? I sure hope so.I don’t care how much money I make on the sale. I don’t care what the price tag is. I don’t care how many “units” I sell them. I don’t care if I sell them after meeting with them only once or meeting with them several times before they buy. I don’t care if I get accolades from others on closing a sale. If Jimmy cracked corn, guess what? I don’t care.Here’s what I care about in a sales scenario (and, in my opinion, so should you): I care about whether or not I can help someone with the products and/or services I provide.Advertisement I either can or I can’t.If I can and I close the sale, wonderful. Wonderful for them and wonderful for me, because there is tremendous satisfaction in helping someone and getting paid for it.If I can’t, that’s okay. My product or service doesn’t meet their needs. Nothing I can do about that. Doesn’t make them bad or evil, it doesn’t make me bad or evil. The round peg isn’t bad and the square hole isn’t evil. It’s just not a fit. Pretty simple, yes?If I can meet someone’s needs but cannot close the sale because of any number of variables that cannot be overcome at the time (personalities, shipping, price, policies, etc.), I don’t get emotional about it. I will stay in touch with them and ask, from time to time, if anything has changed? Why? Because I saw the potential in being able to help them. Who would walk away from something like that?So, let me ask you: What’s the best sale you ever made? Continue ReadingRobert BellCelebrate Failure, Just like Deacon Blues Because you can’t have success without failure. Published 1 month agoon April 16, 2019By Robert Bell THEY GOT A NAME for the winners in the world.I … I want a name when I loseThey call Alabama the Crimson TideCall me Deacon Blues”— Deacon Blues by Steely DanI love that lyric. It’s clever. It expresses so much, so powerfully and concisely. “I want a name when I lose.” Brilliant.Why do I think it’s brilliant? Because no one, to my knowledge, has ever captured that sentiment before on something as common as losing. It’s as though it’s a celebration of failure.Hey, and why not?In the movie, National Treasure, Nicolas Cage’s character, says “You know, Thomas Edison failed nearly 2,000 times to develop the carbonized cotton-thread filament for the incandescent light bulb … And when asked about it, he said “I didn’t fail; I found 2,000 ways how not to make a light bulb,” but he only needed one way to make it work.”The point is that no one, can be successful at anything without failing first … or 2,000 times. Yes, there are instances of success on the first try but those often can’t be sustained.Failure makes us stronger! Smarter! And, in most cases, more determined.Want to know my first failure selling?I was 21 and starting up a contact lens distributorship with a partner. He was going to run the business end of things and I was responsible for selling. After all, I was the son of an optical sales legend. But, to be honest, I’d never sold anything before. How hard could it be?It took us about two weeks to set up the business. Every day during those two weeks, I’d pass this optometrist’s office thinking they’re going to be my first call and, hopefully, my first sale. Every day, as I passed by that office, I thought: “You’re mine. I’m gonna get you!”Finally, the day arrived. It was time to make sales calls. This should have been the easiest call ever. All I had to do was walk in and say, “Hi, I’m a contact lens distributor. We have the lowest prices on brands you probably already buy. Here’s my price list. If you’d like to order, please give us a call.”Doesn’t get simpler than that.So, I walked into that OD’s office.“Hi, may we help you?” the very nice receptionist said.“Yes. I, uhhh … ummm …” I started to hyperventilate. I couldn’t catch my breath. I was so nervous, my system shut down and … well, I threw up on their waiting room floor. Bent over, I started crying from embarrassment. Thank goodness, the receptionist and doctor — who ran out at the commotion — were the nicest people. They helped calm me down and clean me up.I drove home, went straight to my room, hit the bed in fetal position (probably sucked my thumb, too) and stayed there feeling like a complete loser. The ultimate failure. Call me Deacon Blues!Fast forward to today. Here I am, a sales trainer and sales strategist who’s successfully trained thousands of salespeople and has been writing for INVISION Magazine for the past five years. Success borne of failure!So, don’t get down on yourself when a customer says, “No.” Think, “Well, at least I didn’t throw up like Robert did.” But, also, think about how you might be better next time. What does a successful sale look like and how do you get there? Continue ReadingRobert BellDon’t Just Ask Questions, Actually Listen to the Answers Sounds simple, but many don’t do it when trying to sell eyewear. Published 2 months agoon March 12, 2019By Robert Bell A LONG TIME AGO, I overheard a conversation between two people:Person 1: “Ugh, I just wish there was a magic potion you could drink to lose weight!”Person 2: “There is. It’s called water.” Sponsored ContentNano Vista—The Quintessential Line for Kids Sponsored ContentNew ‘Auxiliary Skin’ Transforms Eyewear into Seamless Sunglasses VideosTeen Sees Color for the First Time — Watch Her Reaction Makes me laugh, every time, because of its sheer simplicity. Anytime I put myself on a weight loss plan, drinking lots of water a day is on the regimen. Simple, right? Well, yes and no. The not so simple part is actually doing it. To drink all that water per day (… hold on, I gotta go refill my water bottle…) isn’t easy. It is, however, very doable.Well, it’s the same thing with selling.There isn’t a magic potion for selling (trust me, I’ve drunk a lot of red wine just to be sure) but there is a magic wand. Know what it is? Listening. I mean really listening! The best salespeople I ever meet, in any industry, are always, hands-down, the best listeners. Simple, right? Well, yes and no. The hard part is doing it. I’ll share with you how to make that easier.One of the nicest compliments I’ve ever received was from one of my first clients, Dr. Robert Ratzlaff of RealEyes in Taos, NM. About a month after his EyeCoach training, he told me I had made him a better doctor. Hmm, strange I thought. I’m not a doctor nor did I attend optometry school.“Doctor, how the hell did I do that?”“By making me a better listener.”“Ah, and how did I make you a better listener?”“By teaching me to ask better questions. It forces me to listen to the answers.”It forces me to listen to the answers.If you’ve read my sales columns before, you know I’m all about the questions. The more questions, the better. The questions I ask have a “share with me” or a “tell me” element to them. Meaning, with each question I ask, I could have “Tell me” or “Share with me” as a preface. It implies we’re on the same team. It says, “Look, I’m not trying to persuade you, I’m trying to find out exactly how I can help you.”“Tell me… when you’re reviewing your children’s homework, do you notice you’re moving the paper further away to read it?”“Share with me… what’s happening with your eyes and vision when you’re at your daughter’s soccer games in the late afternoon? Just how harsh is that sun?”“Tell me… how often is the baby grabbing the glasses off your face?”“Share with me… how often are you rubbing your eyes and exactly what part of the day do you start to feel most fatigued?”Wait for the answers. Don’t interrupt them, ever! When they’re done responding, ask another question until you have all the information you require to help them purchase all the eyewear they need.I tend to nod my head up and down while they’re responding. Why? For me, it actually feels good and reminds me that I’m an active participant in this conversation. For them, it shows them I’m being an active listener and I care about what they’re talking about.Listening. What a concept! 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